Companionship is the state of having or being a companion, or having an association or a fellowship with another.
== A ==
Ah, savage company; but in the churchWith saints, and in the taverns with the gluttons.
Dante Alighieri, Inferno, XXII. 13. in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 124-25.
== C ==
Tell me thy company and I will tell thee what thou art.
Miguel de Cervantes, Don Quixote (1605-1615), Volume III, Part II, Chapter XXIII.Pares autem vetere proverbio, cum paribus facillime congregantur.
Like, according to the old proverb, naturally goes with like.
Cicero, Cato Major De Senectute, III. 7. in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 124-25.We are in the same boat.
Pope Clement I, to the Church of Corinth. in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 124-25.
== D ==
I couldn't advise others to try such a long distance marriage, but for us it works perfectly. We are three thousand miles apart, it is true, but the big thing is that we each have our careers without interference from the other. My husband can't leave his practice and I can't leave Hollywood, but neither of us has any thought of giving up either the career or each other. Some day we shall again live in our 'honeymoon' apartment - but in the meantime, for us, this is the best possible way.
Irene Dunne The Girl Nobody Knows; New Movie Magazine, Reginald Taviner (October 1932).Solamen miseris socios habuisse doloris.
It is a comfort to the unfortunate to have companions in woe.
Quoted by Dominicus de Gravina, Chron. de Rebus, in Apul. Gest. Thomas à Kempis, De Valle Siliorum, Chapter 16. Dionysius Cato. Spinoza, Ethics, IV. 57 ("Alorum" for "doloris." Thucydides, VII. 75.
== F ==
Better your room than your company.
Simon Forman, Marriage of Wit and Wisdom (c. 1570).
== H ==
Bishop Jeremy Taylor is clear, that men will find it impossible to do anything greatly good, unless they cut off all superfluous company and visits.
George Horne Olla Podrida, No. 9.
== K ==
Do not keep company with young people and strangers. Do not fawn upon the rich, and do not be fond of mingling with the great. Associate with the humble and the simple, with the devout and virtuous, and with them speak of edifying things.
Thomas à Kempis, Imitation of Christ, Book 1, Chapter 8Every relationship is fundamentally a power struggle, and the individual in power is whoever likes the other person less.
Klosterman, Chuck (2004). Sex, Drugs, and Cocoa Puffs: A Low Culture Manifesto. Scribner. p. 9. ISBN 0743236017. It takes two for a kiss Only one for a sigh,Twain by twain we marry One by one we die.
Frederick L. Knowles, Grief and Joy. in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 124-25.Joy is a partnership, Grief weeps alone,Many guests had Cana; Gethsemane but one.
Frederick L. Knowles, Grief and Joy. in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 124-25.
== L ==
Individuals primarily seek social relationships to fulfill their need for belonging (Baumeister and Leary 1995; Lee and Robbins 1998). Human beings are social animals and because ‘no man (woman) is an island’ (Donne 1975), people are naturally inclined to make social connections to satisfy their need for belonging (Maslow 1954; Brewer 2005). Baumeister and Leary (1995) described belonging, the need to form and maintain interpersonal bonds, as one of the fundamental motivations behind human behavior. Most research indicates a common definition of what loneliness is – it is an aversive psychological state due to a person’s perception of lacking satisfactory social relationships. Quantity of social relationship is a contributing factor to lonely feeling: people will feel ‘lonely’ when there are too few people around them (Russell, Peplau and Cutrona 1980), as opposed to the ‘crowded’ feeling when individuals are surrounded by too many people. However, quality may be more important than quantity at times. As the sufficient number of relationships varies among individuals (Jones 1982), loneliness has also been understood as the perception that one’s existing interpersonal relationships do not meet one’s expectations (Weiss 1973; Gordon 1976; Peplau and Caldwell 1978; 4266 L.W. Lam and D.C. Lau Downloaded by [University of Macau Library] at 00:54 22 September 2012 Newcomb 1990; Green, Richardson, Lago and Schatten-Jones 2001). Other scholars describe loneliness as painful feelings and emotional distress due to insufficient or unsatisfactory social connections or relationships (Rook 1984; Cacioppo et al. 2006; Cacioppo and Patrick 2008; Rotenberg et al. 2010).
Lam, Long W.; Lau, Dora C. (2012-11-01). "Feeling lonely at work: investigating the consequences of unsatisfactory workplace relationships". The International Journal of Human Resource Management. 23 (200): p.4266-67The First Truth is an assertion that all manifested life is sorrow, unless man knows how to live it... the Cause of Sorrow is always desire. If a man has no desires, if he is not striving for place or power or wealth, then he is equally tranquil whether the wealth or position comes or whether it goes. He remains unruffled and serene.... Being human, he will of course wish for this or that, but always mildly and gently, so that he does not allow himself to be disturbed... How often, for example, a young man desires affection from someone who cannot give it to him, who has it not to give! From such a desire as that comes often a great deal of sadness, jealousy and much other ill-feeling. You will say that such a desire is natural; undoubtedly it is, and affection which is returned is a great source of happiness. Yet if it cannot be returned, a man should have the strength to accept the situation, and not allow sorrow to be caused by the unsatisfied desire.
C.W. Leadbeater, (Speaking about the Four Noble Truths in The Masters and the Path, (1925)
== M ==
It is a comfort to the miserable to have comrades in misfortune, but it is a poor comfort after all.
Christopher Marlowe, Faustus. in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 124-25.
== P ==
Two i's company, three i's trumpery.
Mrs. Parr, Adam and Eve, IX. 124. in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 124-25.On se forme l’esprit et le sentiment par les conversations. On se gâte l’esprit et le sentiment par les conversations. Ainsi les bonnes ou les mauvaises le forment ou le gâtent. Il importe donc de tout de les savoir choisir pour se le former et ne le point gâter; et on ne peut faire ce choix, si on ne l’a déjà formé et point gâté. Ainsi cela fait un cercle, d’où sont bienheureux ceux qui sortent.
Spirit and sentiment are formed by conversation. Spirit and sentiment are ruined by conversation. … It is, then, all-important to know how to choose our society in order to form rather than ruin them; and one cannot make this choice unless one has already formed them and not ruined them. Thus a circle is formed, and those are fortunate who escape it.
Blaise Pascal, Pensées, #6The right hands of fellowship.
Paul of Tarsus, Galatians, II. 9.i n Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 124-25.Why does a man who is truly in love insist that this relationship must continue and be "lifelong"? Because life is pain and the enjoyment of love is an anesthetic. Who would want to wake up halfway through an operation?
Cesare Pavese, This Business of Living, 1938-01-19It is stupid to grieve for the loss of a girl friend: you might never have met her, so you can do without her.
Cesare Pavese, This Business of Living, 1938-10-13How can you have confidence in a woman who will not risk entrusting her whole life to you, day and night?
Cesare Pavese, This Business of Living, 1945-11-28
== S ==
The same thing has been said by all whom Prometheus has formed out of better clay. What pleasure could they find in the company of people with whom their only common ground is just what is lowest and least noble in their own nature—the part of them that is commonplace, trivial and vulgar? What do they want with people who cannot rise to a higher level, and for whom nothing remains but to drag others down to theirs?
Arthur Schopenhauer, Counsels and Maxims, T. B. Saunders, trans., § 9Evidence of the destructiveness of unrealistic expectations can be found in the literature on cognition and marriage. For example, people who feel that their relationship standards (e.g., how alike they believe they should be, the degree to which they should engage in acts of caring and concern for each other) are unmet are more inclined to report more negative cognitive and affective reactions to marital problems (Baucom et al., 1996). Further, research on relationship beliefs indicates that idealistic and unrealistic beliefs, like “mind reading is expected” (partners who truly care about and know one another should be able to sense each other’s needs and preferences without overt communication), “sexual perfectionism” (one must be a “perfect” sexual partner) and “disagreement is destructive” (disagreements in marriage are a sign of impending doom) are positively associated with marital distress (eidelson & Epstein, 1982; Epstein & Eidelson, 1981) and negatively associated with the desire to maintain the relationship (Eidelson & Epstein, 1982).
Chris Segrin, Robin L. Nabi, “Does Television Viewing Cultivate Unrealistic Expectations About Marriage?”, Journal of Communication, 52(2): June 2002, p. 248.Male voli solatii genus est turbu miserorum.
A crowd of fellow-sufferers is a miserable kind of comfort.
Seneca the Younger, Consol. ad Marc.', 12, 5. in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 124-25.Ante, inquit, circumspiciendum est, cum quibos edas et bibas, quam quid edas et bibas.
[Epicurus] says that you should rather have regard to the company with whom you eat and drink, than to what you eat and drink.
Seneca the Younger, Epistles, XIX. in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 124-25.Nullius boni sine sociis jucunda possessio est.
No possession is gratifying without a companion.
Seneca the Younger, Epistolæ Ad Lucilium, VI. in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 124-25.How is it less or worseThat it shall hold companionship in peaceWith honour, as in war?
William Shakespeare, Coriolanus (c. 1607-08), Act III, scene 2, line 49.The most widely-accepted theory regarding supervisor–subordinate relationship quality is Leader–Member Exchange (LMX) Theory (Graen & Scandura, 1987). According to LMX theory, supervisors form different types of relationships with their various employees and these relationships vary with respect to quality (Graen, Dansereau, & Minami, 1972; Graen & Schiemann, 1978). In general, higher quality supervisor–subordinate relationships (also known as “in-group” relationships) are characterized by higher levels of mutual trust, respect and obligation among the relationship partners. In such relationships, leaders and members learn they can count on one another for support and encouragement. As a result, higher quality relationships function more as “partnerships” where “members move beyond their own self-interests to focus on larger mutual interests” (Graen & Uhl-Bien, 1995). Leader–member relationship quality is associated with a variety of important individual and organizational outcomes. For example, employees in higher quality relationships report higher levels of job satisfaction (Graen, Novak, & Sommerkamp 1982) and commitment to the organization (Nystrom, 1990) than do employees in lower quality relationships. In addition, research indicates leader–member relationship quality is negatively related to employee turnover (Graen, Liden, & Hoel, 1982). Focusing largely on such outcomes, LMX research has given only limited attention to the communication that occurs between leaders and members (e.g., Fairhurst, 1993). This work provides some direction for speculation regarding how leader–member relationship quality might be associated with employee information experiences. High quality LMX relationships tend to be characterized by high levels of trust and self-disclosure (Duchon, Green, & Taber, 1986). As a consequence, supervisors and subordinates may communicate more openly (i.e., more frequently and about more 378 P. M. Sias issues) in high quality relationships than in low quality relationships. Thus, employees in high quality relationships likely receive more information from their supervisors, than those in low quality relationships
Sias, Patricia M. (2005-01-01). "Workplace Relationship Quality and Employee Information Experiences". Communication Studies. 56 (4): pp.377-378.Peer relationships, also referred to as “equivalent status” relationships (Sias, Krone, & Jablin, 2002), are relationships between co-workers with no formal authority over one another. These relationships represent the bulk of workplace relationships, as employees typically have only one supervisor but several peer co-workers. Peer relationships perform a variety of important functions in the workplace. Peer co-workers are the most likely, and most important, source of emotional and instrumental support for employees, primarily because co-workers possess knowledge and understanding about the workplace experience that external sources do not (Ray, 1987). Moreover, peers act as a second “set of eyes and ears” for one another, sharing important organizational information and gossip that may otherwise be unobtainable (Rawlins, 1994). Kirby and Krone (2002) note the powerful influence peer co-workers have on one another with respect to workplace attitudes and behavior. Thus, peer relationships are of great consequence to organizational functioning. Peer relationships, like supervisor–subordinate relationships, vary with respect to quality. Kirby and Krone (2002), for instance, noted the ways in which peer co-workers cluster into sub-groups based upon the employees’ family status (e.g., married/unmarried; children/childless). They found that interaction among these groups of employees differed and had significant impact on the employees’ attitudes toward, and use of, the organization’s work–family policies. Sias and Cahill (1998) examined the ways employees form different types of relationships with their co-workers ranging from acquaintance, to friend, to very close or best friend. Interaction among these various relationship types differed in fundamental ways. Specifically, friends engaged in much more frequent, intimate, and open communication than did acquaintances. In addition, communication between co-workers became increasingly broad and intimate as their friendships grew closer.
Ibid, p. 379.It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.
Solomon, Proverbs 21:19, King James VersionNo blast of air or fire of sunPuts out the light whereby we run With girdled loins our lamplit race, And each from each takes heart of graceAnd spirit till his turn be done.
Algernon Charles Swinburne, Songs Before Sunrise. in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 124-25.Comes jucundus in via pro vehiculo est.
A pleasant companion on a journey is as good as a carriage.
Syrus, Maxims. in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 124-25.
== T ==
Join the company of lions rather than assume the lead among foxes.
Talmud, Aboth, IV. 20. in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 124-25.As the egoic mode of consciousness and all the social, political, and economic structures that it created enter the final stage of collapse, the relationships between men and women reflect the deep state of crisis in which humanity now finds itself. As humans have become increasingly identified with their mind, most relationships are not rooted in Being and so turn into a source of pain and become dominated by problems and conflict.
Eckhart Tolle in The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment (1997) p. 99Most people don't know how to listen because the major part of their attention is taken up by thinking. They pay more attention to that than to what the other person is saying, and none at all to what really matters: the Being of the other person underneath the words and the mind. Of course, you cannot feel someone else's Being except through your own. This is the beginning of the realization of oneness, which is love. At the deepest level of Being, you are one with all that is. Most human relationships consist mainly of minds interacting with each other, not of human beings communicating, being in communion. No relationship can thrive in that way, and that is why there is so much conflict in relationships.
Eckhart Tolle in A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose, p. 81 (2005)Humanity is under great pressure to evolve because it is our only chance of survival as a race. This will affect every aspect of your life and close relationships in particular. Never before have relationships been as problematic and conflict ridden as they are now. As you may have noticed, they are not here to make you happy or fulfilled. If you continue to pursue the goal of salvation through a relationship, you will be disillusioned again and again. But if you accept that the relationship is here to make you conscious instead of happy, then the relationship will offer you salvation, and you will be aligning yourself with the higher consciousness that wants to be born into this world. For those who hold on to the old patterns, there will be increasing pain, violence, confusion, and madness.Most humans are still in the grip of the egoic mode of consciousness: identified with their mind and run by their mind. If they do not free themselves from their mind in time, they will be destroyed by it. They will experience increasing confusion, conflict, violence, illness, despair, madness. Egoic mind has become like a sinking ship. If you don't get off, you will go down with it.
Eckhart Tolle in A New Earth:Awakening to Your Life's Purpose,'' p. 101, (2005)
== W ==
We will need to become savvy about how to build relationships, how to nurture growing, evolving things. All of us will need better skills in listening, communicating, and facilitating groups, because these are the talents that build strong relationships.
Margaret Wheatley (1992) Leadership and the New Science. p. 38.
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